Quick disclaimer:
I’m not claiming to be a professional video editor. There’s no flashy transitions, cinematic music, or polished cuts. Just me, speaking from the heart with a few visuals, saying what needs to be said. I put this together as best I could—with the tech skills I’ve got—and I hope the message lands exactly where it’s meant to.
When you start doing the inner work, genuinely in your body, not just in your head, your outer world begins to shift. You start attracting different conversations, different dynamics, different people. Why? Because the world is always reflecting who you are on the inside. Heal the fear, and fear stops meeting you at every corner. Now imagine millions of people doing this. The field would change. The systems would collapse without a single protest. So how do we get others to do the work? We don’t need to convince, force, or knock on doors. Just work on you, fully, deeply and honestly. And I promise, you’ll become the ripple that reminds others of who they really are. That’s how we change the world. One regulated, self-led nervous system at a time.
Before you watch this, ask yourself:
Are you still constantly triggered by the same people or stories?
Do you find yourself judging, blaming, or feeling stuck in rage, even though you know you’ve “woken up”?
Are you exhausted by the cycle of seeing everything that’s wrong, but not feeling any lighter inside?
Or maybe you’ve started doing the inner work—but something still keeps pulling you back into the loop?
If you answered yes to any of these, this might be for you. But if the anger stage is still serving you, if you're not ready to look at your own part in the field you're plugged into—that's okay too. You don’t need to perform healing. This isn’t about pretending you’re further along than you are. It’s about honesty.
I made this video because I keep hearing the same question:
“How can we not judge the people who’ve caused so much harm?”
It’s valid. And this is my answer; not to shame, but to open a door.
If you’re ready to take full responsibility for your energy while still acknowledging everything that’s happened, press play.
Below you’ll find some FAQs, a guide for how to begin inner work, and space for open dialogue. Please share your reflections. Let’s have this conversation without blame, without shame, and with a commitment to presence, honesty, and curiosity.
FAQ: What If I’m Still Angry? What If I Don’t Agree?
Isn’t this spiritual bypassing?
No. Bypassing avoids the truth. This work includes the truth, but adds another layer: how your nervous system responds to it. You’re not being told to stop feeling, but to stop outsourcing the responsibility for those feelings. Presence and accountability are not bypass,they’re the medicine.Aren’t some people just evil?
Maybe. But that’s not the point. This isn’t about excusing behaviour, it’s about choosing not to let it hijack your internal state. “Evil” people will live rent-free in your consciousness until you choose another path.So are you saying I shouldn’t speak out?
Not at all. Speak, expose and act. But do it from coherence, not from reactivity. Action from trauma often just recreates more of the same. When you’re grounded, your truth lands. When you’re charged, people just defend.But what if people really have taken from me?
They probably have. That’s real. But so is your choice in how long you want to carry it. Healing isn’t saying “it didn’t happen.” It’s saying “I won’t let it define my state anymore.”I didn’t comply in 2020—how can this have anything to do with me?
Because it’s not about what you did. It’s about what energy you still hold. You can be anti-system and still deeply stuck in fear, control, or judgement. That’s what this work looks at.So... am I the problem?
No. You’re not the problem. You’re the opportunity. This isn’t about guilt or blame. It’s about power. You’re being asked to stop waiting for the external world to shift—and start shifting the frequency you bring to it.
How to Start the Inner Work
Inner work isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about remembering who you were before the world told you to disconnect. It’s about learning to respond from truth instead of react from wounds. And no—you don’t need to meditate on a mountain or be “healed” to begin. You just need to start noticing.
Here’s what that might look like in practice:
Notice your body before your story.
The moment you feel triggered, ask: What’s happening in my chest, my gut, my breath? Get curious about the sensation before running the mental script.Separate sensation from meaning.
Just because something feels intense doesn’t mean it’s true. A tight chest might be fear, not a sign the world is ending. Slow down. Feel. Don’t interpret too fast.Ask the real question:
What part of me is reacting here? Is it your adult self… or the inner child who didn’t feel safe, loved, or enough?Stop blaming the mirror.
Every trigger is information. Not about how broken the world is—but about what still wants to be seen and soothed in you.Let your nervous system lead.
Healing isn’t just mindset. It’s embodied. It lives in your breath, your posture, your ability to stay present when things feel uncomfortable.
If you want help with this, or you’re ready to go deeper, that’s what Awakened Self Healers is for.
What Is Awakened Self Healers?
Awakened Self Healers isn’t a course, it’s not therapy.
It’s not a performative “high vibes only” space.
It’s a private sanctuary for people who are done with the spiritual performance, the blame loops, the unprocessed triggers, and the obsession with what’s wrong out there.
This is for you if:
You’ve seen through the system, but your nervous system still doesn’t feel safe.
You’re tired of judging others and yourself, but don’t know how to stop.
You know there’s more to healing than journaling and meditating once a week.
You want to learn how to respond from presence, not react from pain.
You’re ready to be deeply honest—with love, not shame.
Inside, you’ll get:
A grounded community space (not on Facebook) to process and share in real time—no censorship, no ego.
Exclusive Zoom sessions where we explore real-time triggers, relationship dynamics, emotional patterns, and identity work.
Voice notes, prompts, and embodiment practices sent directly into our private WhatsApp space—so you can do the work while living your life, not just reading about it.
Discounted access to 1:1 sessions and courses, only for members.
A space to stop pretending, to get off the emotional rollercoaster, and finally start living in coherence, with your truth, your body, and your own inner knowing.
This is nervous system liberation.
This is identity alchemy.
This is what self-leadership really looks like.
No pressure. No hierarchy. Just a soft space to finally put the mirror down—and start living from the inside out.
Join now for £11.11/month
Because healing shouldn’t be gatekept, and your freedom is worth committing to.
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Ben’s Story - Awakened Self Healers Member
Look, I’m just gonna be real. This was me.
A year ago, I was completely lost. I was stuck in a job that drained the life out of me, waking up every day dreading it, just trying to get through the week. Living for the weekend but too burnt out to even enjoy it. I wasn’t there for my kids properly. I wasn’t showing up as the man I wanted to be. I was just surviving, clinging on, pretending I was okay, but deep down, I was falling apart.
I hit a point where I couldn’t fake it anymore. I had a breakdown. Proper one , not just mentally, but physically, emotionally, spiritually. It all came crashing down.
And you know what? I’m glad it did. Because that was the moment everything started to change.
I started working with Nickita , and yeah, it’s hard to explain, but she helped me see things differently. Helped me actually feel again. Not just talk through stuff, but heal the stuff I’d buried for years. The stuff I didn’t even realise was running my life.
And I just wanna say something to the lads especially, because I know what it’s like. You get told to man up, crack on, don’t cry, don’t talk. Just bury it, stay strong.
But that’s not strength. That’s self-destruction over time.
I lived like that for years. Never talked. Bottled everything up. Always felt like I had to be the one who kept it all together. And in the end, it nearly destroyed me.
What I’ve learnt is, you can’t just keep pushing it down. It doesn’t go away. It just shows up in other ways — stress, illness, losing your temper, feeling numb, zoning out from life. You think you’re coping, but really you’re just existing.
And that’s not living.
There’s this WhatsApp group I’m part of now, it’s called Awaken Self Healers. Nickita runs it. It’s not some cheesy, feel-good group, it’s real. People on their healing journeys, sharing their stories, being honest, helping each other. Nickita posts deep stuff in there, voice notes, videos, tools that actually help. And there’s even a group call each month if you wanna join in.
It’s helped me loads. Just seeing other people going through it, knowing you’re not mad, not broken, just human. Healing’s not always easy, but man — it’s worth it.
If any of this hits you, and you feel like you’ve been carrying too much for too long — just know you don’t have to. You don’t have to keep suffering in silence just because society told you men shouldn’t feel.
That’s a lie. And it’s stopping you from living your life fully.
You can let it go. You can come back to yourself. You can heal.If you wanna check the group out, do it. If not, that’s cool too.But just know you’re not alone. And there is another way. Ben
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